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Saturday, October 15, 2011

Almost Lovers

Just some thoughts on this little poem posted by someone on facebook:

Goodbye, my almost lover
Goodbye, my hopeless dream
I'm trying not to think about you
Why can't you just let me be?

So long, my luckless romance
My back is turned on you
Should've known you'd bring me heartache
Almost lovers always do

First of all, it seems to me, that it is the person, the almost lover, that the writer is saying goodbye to, that the writer is trying to forget.  This as opposed to saying goodbye to just the feeling or idea and not the person.
Also, it seems that the almost lover is still around even though the writer asks to 'just let me be'.  Whether the writer has actually asked or whether this is only unspoken, wishful thinking, I can't tell.
In the end, the writer decides to turn back on the almost lover, as it brings the writer heartache.

The idea of not finding love or romance where one would like to find it, causing that someone to turn back on another, is quite a sad thought for me.  I wonder, is it not possible to accept that the relationship will not lead to romance, while at the same time remain together as friends?  
I suppose it may be that the writer just needs some time away and will eventually be able to return and keep the friendship.  Personally though, I'd much rather spend the time with the friend, because you never know if the time spent away would turn out to be the only time you have.
I don't suppose it will be easy.  There will still be heartache and pain, I expect.  But this heartache is partly due to a refusal to accept, or trying to hold on to the idea of romance that is not there or can not be.  The first step really is to accept.  And from there, it will be easier.

Your thoughts?

Note: (16Oct2011)
I just realized that the selection, which I thought at first was a poem written by the poster, came from a song entitled 'Almost Lover'.  I don't know when the song came out.  I have never heard it before.  Anyway, it goes without saying that I interpreted only the given lines.  I don't know if the rest of the song gives it a different meaning.  Maybe one of these days, I'll get to listen to it in full and find out.  =P

Saturday, October 1, 2011

Anne's Dilemma

(This is NOT a movie review.)

Watching movies in the theater nowadays is so expensive so I rarely do it.  But I did see the trailer of Anne Curtis's new movie 'No Other Woman' and one of her lines there caught my attention.  What she said was something like this:

What will you do if the only man that you loved is unfortunately married?  I am not going to give up.  Rather, I'm putting up a god-damned fight!

 (I hope I got that right.)
Anyway, here are my thoughts on it.  (Remember that I haven't seen the movie so this is more of a general thing.  It's not necessary to take it in the context of the movie.)

First, a question: when did you find out that the guy is married?

If you know from the start that the guy is married, then you should know enough to stop yourself from developing any special feelings for him.  (Needless to say, you shouldn't play with fire.)  Now, you may say 'but I can't help it if I do'.  Two options then: (1) choose to distance yourself from the guy, or (2) stay, but limit yourself to being just friends with him.

If you only find out that the guy is married after you have already developed a relationship with him, then you have to wonder why that is.  It seems impossible it didn't come up in conversations at least.  So apparently, the guy hid this fact from you?  And I doubt that means anything good.  The relationship has to end.

The bottomline is: you always have to keep in mind that it is not just your self that you have to think about.  You also have to consider the guy, his wife, and their family.  Therefore, in this case, better to accept and let go, rather than put up a god-damned fight.